All around the internet I read comments and posts of people who feel they have “failed”. Failed in starting their business, failed to land a new client, failed in completing their website, failed in completing today’s to-do list. I’m here to tell you that its OK, and really you should be doing more of it!
Its ok to not land a new client.
There are definitely more out there, you just have to go after them, don’t stop after your first ‘no thanks’ or more commonly ‘crickets’. When hindsight comes along you will soon realise that the client wasn’t right for you, or the timing was off, or you didn’t actually have the time for the project if you are completely honest with yourself.
Its ok to miss a deadline.
Whether self imposed or negotiated with your client, trust me the world isn’t going to end if you miss a deadline. Now I’m not advocating being lazy and not caring about set dates. But things come up and when dealt with in the right way, they (your friend, your mum, your client, yourself) will understand. Did you listen when I said the world wouldn’t end? I meant it!
Its ok to not finish your website.
Being a web designer and developer you would think I should have left this one out, however as any web ninja will tell you, your own website it actually one of the hardest projects to do. It doesn’t have to be perfect, heck it doesn’t even have to be finished, just get something up there so people can contact you and start working on growing your list (that thing everybody keeps talking about).
Its ok to miss a blog post…..or 4.
So this is me right here. I’ve skipped the last few blog posts and emails, because honestly I didn’t have anything to write about and didn’t want to just do it for the sake of it, so I didn’t and I instantly felt better and less stressed. Maybe a few people will unsubscribe that otherwise wouldn’t of if I’d been more consistent but that’s ok, I’m ok with it and you should be too.
I’ve missed deadlines before, not won proposals, been fired, dumped & ignored. I’ve on many occasions not finished my daily to-do list and you know what that is OK. I’m ok with all of it because I’ve taken each of those experiences and learnt from them. I’ve learnt how to streamline my business, work smarter, be a better person and I am a whole lot wiser too (maybe not all the time, but definitely sometimes).
All of these things at the time, do make you feel like a failure, they make you feel insecure about yourself and your abilities. Its only when you are on the other side (you know that wisdom I spoke of), that you can see how each of those situations has actually helped you, not hindered you long term. So next time something happens like missing a deadline, a blog post or not landing what you thought was your dream client, learn form it and don’t be so hard on yourself. Remember….it’s OK.
Now I would love to hear from you. Are you so called “failing” right now? What at? Are you being too hard on yourself? Are you on the other side and have learnt a valuable lesson? Please let me know in the comments below and of course if you enjoyed this post please share the love amongst your peeps!